Recovering from a broken heart is never easy. People say that time heals every wound, but how long should you wait before getting into the fray again? Locking the outside world out and sulking in your room proves to be just as harmful as diving headfirst into hedonism. Either way, we recommend you to step into the dating scene again with small steps. The key note in getting over a breakup is to redirect your thoughts. In other words, stop thinking about your ex! Maybe you made some mistakes. Maybe things could’ve gone better. Still, you must shove those painful memories into a shadowy corner of your mind, and focus on a brighter future.
Rebuilding Old Bridges
Having a bubbly social life is one surefire way to forget your breakup. Whether you visit local pubs with a group of friends or just “party hard”, the point is to have fun with others. Most people avoid their usual social circle because their friends would always remind them about the “painful times”, asking the reason for the breakup or just overzealously wanting to cheer you up. That’s why you may want to revisit old friends. You know the drill: people from high school, old colleges, etc. They probably won’t know about your past relationship, so you can chat without touching on the painful subject and you can also open your heart to them if you wanted to.
Find a New Hobby
Another way to deter your thoughts about your ex is to find a new activity that you can partake in. Is there a sport you long dreamt about, such as skydiving, golf or flying a plane? There is no better time to give them a go! Regular events, such as classes or group events, bring balance into your life and they provide additional challenges you can wrap your mind around. Physical sports such as self-defense courses are also a good way to lift your spirit. The main goal is to find a new cause to devote yourself to, not to mention that personal achievements will bring your life back on track.
Start Dating… Online
It doesn’t matter whether your breakup was painful or not, you went through a personal trauma that affected your willingness to contact other human beings. Some find inner peace by adopting a pet. The other way to slowly but steadily build confidence is possibly through online dating. Just making a resolution to actually sit down and create a personal profile is a huge step towards opening up for love once more. Dating sites have advanced matchmaking engines that will recommend other singles who share the same interests as you, not to mention some of them even offer deep personality tests. Keep in mind that not every dating site or app revolves around “one night relationships”. Some people are in the same shoes as you, and all they want is a friendly talk that may lead to a healthy and longstanding relationship.