Dating in general is a testament to one’s willingness to taste a series of awful ice cream just to find that one perfect flavor. It’s a difficult business even without others constantly hindering your efforts with terrible advice. Whether it’s an older brother, the neighbor, a gossip magazine, cranky uncle Hermann or Reddit, wherever you turn you’ll most likely run into a ‘helpful’ tip that instantly handicaps your chances on a date. We’ve collected a bunch of these – only for educational purposes – from Reddit and our own nightmarish past experiences.
“If they don’t appreciate you at first sight, just walk away.”
A sound advice at first: avoid being clingy, and don’t pursue dates who are clearly not interested in you. There is nothing positive in one-sided love. However, persistency and stalking aren’t the same. There are both men and women who give you the cold shoulder at first, but if you give up after the first roadblock you’ll never get to the finish line. Maybe they are tired, facing personal issues, or have other interests at the moment. Check on them after a brief pause. Who knows, your partner might realize how much they miss your company.
“He’s mean to you because he likes you.”
This is a false myth among ladies, where rude or downright abusive behavior is dismissed because of this reason. Being mean is not a misguided way to show emotion, and it shouldn’t be accepted by anyone. Just think about it: if you stomach your boyfriend’s grumpy nature, there is no reason for him to change for the better.
“Always have a condom in your pocket. When it’s time to go, slide it across the table and wink at her. Works every time.”
We only recommend this if you are thirsty and looking for a free drink, because there will be plenty to lick from your face after your partner throws her glass at you. You see, there is a difference between bravery and boldness.
The king of generic advice! It’s like telling someone to take a breath every now and then. Despite its truth, it’s so clichéd that it borders on useless.
“You have to show your dominance or else they won’t see you as a potential romantic interest.”
Ask any women you know, they’ll tell you that’s not how it works. If you feel the need to overcompensate even before starting to date, then it’s a dead cause. Relationships are about balance. Just think about the Ying-Yang symbol: two imperfect shapes forming a perfect circle by balancing out the other’s weak points.