The one thing dating sites often pride themselves on is that singles are able to simultaneously chat and develop romance with more than one person. However, they forget to tell you about the awkward situations that can occur when you have to reject a partner – for which there may be multiple reasons. Most likely you are simply not interested, or maybe there was another match that captured your heart. Some people try to resolve the situation with a simple email message, or even worse, they disappear into thin air, leaving their unwanted partner confused. But admit it: this is simply rude. Being upfront and honest pays off in the long run, even if your risk to hurt the person’s feelings. Remember the karmic wheel, as you could also find yourself let down by a promising but dishonest love interest.
The Pitfalls of Online Breakups
Some people consider online relationships inferior to “real life ones”, because they have never met the other person directly. This is quite a selfish approach, which usually hides the fact that they don’t know how to (or don’t want to) break up gently. That’s why they choose an indirect route to get their intention through: letting the relationship wither by not responding. The downside to this is that sometimes your partner won’t get this “subtle” hint, and continue pursuing the romance. Another bad idea that will end up troubling your head, is breaking up by saying platitudes: “Not because of you, it’s because of me”; “You deserve so much better”; “There is nothing wrong with you, I’m just looking for someone else”. These lines are old and bleak, so avoid them at all cost. The best thing you can do for the other is to identify the true reason of your decision, and state it upfront. And one last thing: try to end the conversation on a high note.
Do The Right Thing
Sometimes people delay the inevitable. Not because of malice or ignorance, but because they struggle with doing the right thing. We recommend picturing yourself in the shoes of the other person: what kind of reasons would you expect to hear in the same situation? Another important aspect is the tone and the time announcing your decision. Avoid bringing bad news when your partner is undergoing a serious personal drama. Also, don’t be too strict or unemotional. Try to present the message in an effective way. It always helps to go over the lines in your head before sending the message.
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Cease Contact When Threatened
In some rare occasions, it is indeed wise to simply cease all contact with a person who seems to be overzealous about the relationship. It’s quite possible that the other reacts aggressively upon your breakup proposal. In this case, stay calm, and stop any kind of further interaction with the person. Give the time to calm down, and don’t let their insults get under your skin. When hurt, people can say things they don’t really mean. If they continue the badmouthing, then block them or report the person to the admin team.
We advise caution when dealing with potential love interests online. Don’t share nude or sensitive images about yourself, and don’t reveal your real life address until you are 100% sure your partner is dependable. Otherwise they can blackmail using those sensitive photos, or even visit your home to further harass you.