Being diagnosed with an STD can come as a huge shock, a betrayal and a sudden dose of reality in what may have been a carefree tactile lifestyle. All of a sudden your body fluids present a danger to people you know and love or would be interested in getting to know, and it can be very tempting to throw it all up and become celibate for the immediate duration. However, we are all human and it is natural to crave companionship, warmth and even sex – the human race would not have lasted too long without the urge to procreate!
Once you do decide to go back to the world of dating, or even if you’re just restarting your social life, it can be a big help to use the internet as a buffer between yourself and the ‘real’ world. Telling potential lovers that you have a disease is a must – in some countries it is actually a crime to not disclose such information to potential partners. It’s never easy to explain this to people you’re falling in love with, and the first time is going to be the worst. Using a social website geared for exactly this scenario can help greatly. If you choose to use one of the traditional dating sites, be sure to inform partners of your condition before you reveal too much about yourself and before you commit yourself to a situation they may want to gracefully back out of.
PositiveSingles.com offers an anonymous way to meet new people and potential partners and lets you control very precisely exactly when and how you break the news to your new friends about your condition and the implications it may have on any real world meetings. In this way you can carefully ensure that only sympathetic and caring people can know about your condition while those who might ‘tattle’ or treat you badly can be eliminated from your social network – something not quite so easily achieved in a real-life situation.
The site also offers the opportunity for you to read other users’ stories, which can help alleviate the lonely and shameful feeling of being the only person in such a predicament, and the option to share your own story should you so desire.
Counselors, information and medical advice are available on the site to help users manage their conditions and understand them better. Online chat forums and daily news snippets all help users stay in touch and feel part of a community again. After a time, you may find yourself easier and more comfortable with venturing out in ‘real life’ once again, armed with all the information you need to keep yourself and potential partners, lovers and spouses safe and happy.
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