Most people who just started to date online agree that the hardest part in contacting others is the opening line. Date-birds tend to be shy and nervous when it comes to addressing someone attractive on the other side of the internet. This could result some botched up greetings that ruin the rest of the conversation. Which is a shame, as winning someone over isn’t that hard. Definitely easier than talking to someone else in real life, that’s for sure. If you still find yourself lost in the dating world, read the tips of our dating experts, and learn how to win over your partner’s heart.
Simple and Spontaneous
So, you’ve just finished polishing up your profile and are all set to get in touch with attractive men or women you just saw in your search results. What should your first message look like? Well, in the dating world there is no guarantee that the profile is still active, and the person behind it is still looking for a date. That’s why you should open with a simple complementary message. Don’t go for the standard “Hi”, as it doesn’t make a good conversation starter and countless others are sending this very same first message. “Hi! Nice picture! What’s the name of your dog?” or “You look great! Where was this picture taken?” are more creative and inviting. People like to be recognized, and a little flattery is a good way to break the ice. In case you receive a reply, you should read between the lines. The standard thank you, accompanied by a smiley is just joviality, and you most likely missed to get his or her attention. But if the person answers by complementing your picture or profile, then it’s a clear sign that your interests are mutual.
Make it Special!
Opening with a short and simple line is important, as starting off with a longer and overly flattering message gives the feeling of a try-hard. However, after the first exchange of words, it’s time to switch gears and become creative. There is no surefire method that works every time, but it’s important to respond to the topic your partners throw up, as it shows that you find it interesting. Try to be a good audience, and let the other speak instead of you. Don’t force witty answers all the time and be funny only when the situation calls for it. Although we established that you should listen to what the other says, don’t be too clingy to a topic, and be ready to ask something different if the conversation goes dry. Keep up the energy of your chatting, and make your partner feel special with creative compliments.
Men vs. Women
Focusing on the other gender too much isn’t a good idea, but keep in mind that men and women find different aspects of themselves flattering. For example, men like to talk about their sport activities or their hobby, while a woman’s look is always worth praising. But be aware that admiring only the outside comes off as sophomoric. It’s good to hear that someone appreciates your appearance, but a compliment about a personality is worth far more in both men’s and women’s eyes.
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